Rules when dating a friend
when to break it: If you know the guy's painfully shy, you may need to gently reach out to him first (or risk waiting forever! Most of the time, playing is actually even more fun than winning! There are our college friends, our BFFs since we can remember, work-colleagues-turned-friends, and everything in between.Both of these people are your friends, and if a problem arises in their relationship, they may want to vent to you or seek out advice. Encourage any friends to speak to each other directly about issues they may have with one another, and every will be happier for it in the long run.At times, it’s inevitable to fall for a friend and want to date them.Before you know it, each of them are sending you screenshots of their text conversations and asking you what he meant, asking you if she is mad at him, and a million other annoying insecurities.If you are an angel like me and have set up some friends, here are some ground rules to follow so you don’t become that dreaded middle line of communication. Don’t pull a Gretchen Weiners and reveal all of one of your friend’s secrets to the other.
“This is the most random group of people ever,” they would joke.Your gal pal may be BEGGING you to give her all the dirt on his ex, and trust me, it is tempting to spill. Your other friend will tell her about his past relationships, kinks, fears, and whatever else he holds close when he’s ready.Yes, in a way, you may be helping one friend by confirming that he is definitely over his ex or that he is really, truly, into her. One of the best parts about relationships is getting to learn about the other person for yourself. It may be tempting to secretly (or not so secretly) side with one friend due to being friends longer, ovaries before brovaries, etc., but it is not fair to anyone if you take sides in fights. If you do the above and one (or both) of the parties keep asking you for insider advice, to yell at the person for them, or perform any other middle man duties be firm and say no. Remind each person that you were friends with them individually before they became a couple and no matter how their relationship ends, whether in flames or in wedding bells, you would like it to stay that way.In my head, however, I believed that everyone would get along.All of my friend groups would mingle and become friends and I could be surrounded by the people I love all of the time. Sometimes, however, I am TOO good at introducing friends from different groups, and two people will hit it off. And, before I know it, my master plan of having all of my friends be friends has gone further than I anticipated and two of my friends from two different worlds are creating their own little universe by beginning to date. It makes for easy double dates and you get to take all the credit (OK, most of the credit) for their fabulous relationship.