Recognizing red flags in dating
I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.Texting and dating definitely isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. “Melissa” stayed up until 3 AM texting with her dude. She wants to know how to stop obsessing over him being The One.These women are all dating after 40…some in their 60s and 70s. They had one date three weeks prior, and since it’s only been texting. Texting has certainly complicated dating and relationships.It’s OK if you’re feeling impatient at the moment, but I would highly encourage you to try and put your feelings aside for a moment and try to just appreciate him and empathize with where he is.
Now I know that there are lots of counter-stories where women have gotten screwed too, but guys don’t typically hear those stories.Most guys have heard enough horror stories to know that tying the knot isn’t going to make a woman any less likely to cheat or leave, so there’s a general attitude that it’s not to our advantage to risk half of our income on the chance that everything works out.(Quick insert here: I’ve gotten LOTS of comments that there are many marriages where the woman makes more money than the man and she ends up getting financially screwed. We’ve had our problems but have worked through it all and I really want him to pop the question already.There was a moment when he talked about us being married, but he joked that I should be the one to get him the ring.