Dating six years no proposal
So you've been in a relationship for a while and are more than ready to walk down the aisle but does he feel the same way?You may be in a great relationship but what's the point if it's not going anywhere?Maybe he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage, maybe he's just commitment phobic or maybe he believes that all marriages are meant to fail. Thats completely enought to get to know each other and to understand if you really wanna marry that person.Either way, if the two of you are on opposite ends when it comes to the very idea of marriage, chances are you may never get him to change his mind. The reason he says is that "i'm ...#6 that is exactly what happened with my last boyfriend.Their girlfriends were all 3-4 years older, and they were feeling far more biological pressure than I suspect that you do. Thus, the only leverage you have is to walk away from him and see if he follows. These are just things that you might do to avoid breaking up, but they don’t ensure that you’ll be together forever. You talk about your boyfriend’s “professional priorities” that prevent him from proposing. My best friend is getting married this week even though he’s quitting his safe job as a lawyer to start his own company. Hopefully by dating, she -and eventually he- will see her real values. And yet, despite their ticking clocks, they hung in there patiently, just like you… That’s when they decided to leave if they didn’t get a ring. At the 3-year mark, there’s literally no new information that your boyfriend is trying to gather about you. If you want to be married, it’s time for him to step up and marry you. I assure you, if your guy wanted to marry you, it would happen. He’s been working on it for more than 2 years so I don’t know if that’s also a factor in why he’s reluctant to move forward.We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.
Had she not taken this stance, her boyfriend would have bailed, and she would not have the chance of going the distance.
She’s just (rightfully) insecure that her boyfriend’s afraid of taking the next step. Another thing she can do is still seeing him but decrease her level of commitment until he steps up to the plate. That will keep her busy and less available and appear more confidence around him because other guys adore her. And she might get lucky along the way by finding the right man whom she’s crazily attracted to who is ready and available for her.
But what course of action gives Sophie better options? Now cut the patience, get your answers, or move on. It’s a losing battle for any woman to get attached to a man who doesn’t want to man up.
I truly believe that a lot of couples don’t have what we have, but a lot of those couples still have more commitment…and therein lies the rub… See, I edited Sophie’s letter for brevity (really, I did!
), where she mentioned how her relationship started…seeing each other once a week, then twice a week, then three times a week.