Dating again after a long relationship
Hopefully a little bit of this will be able to help a few of you making some of those decisions now.
I’ve been with Miguel since I was fifteen – that’s nearly nine years now.
Our relationship began online, and as friends, but when it was clear to us that this could be more, we deliberately took that step, kept moving forward and haven’t looked back. More widowed than will admit to it try to date at some point within the first year.
Some people even begin dating with weeks or a few months.
I had a young girl get in touch regarding her relationship and going to university. I remember posting to Live Journal asking for advice – I’d found a few fashion courses I liked, but they weren’t near where Miguel would be studying, and after nearly four years together I couldn’t bear the thought of us being apart.
There have been people even in the past few years that might have said things like “Don’t rush into things” or “don’t you wish you’d met later?
People might tell you that you’ll miss out if you go to university with a boyfriend or girlfriend – miss out on meeting new people, parties, and even experiences, but being in a healthy relationship shouldn’t hold you back at all.
110% trust, coupled with the fact that you shouldn’t be spending each and every waking moment with each other (you must remain your own person! And talking of missing out, I’ve never once regretted my decision.
Average time frame for widowers who remarry is about two – three years while for widows, it’s three to five years.
The best answer I ever heard was something along the lines of And it is. Stereotypes say that men date sooner and remarry more quickly than women do, and there is statistical validity in this.